Understanding The Woman In Your Life

If you hear a mate (or yourself) saying ‘we had such a good relationship, and then she just upped and left’, then you can be 100% certain that is only 50% of the story. Something was wrong, only it wasn’t noticed until it was too late.

This book is about noticing before it's too late, and doing something about it. It's also about being proactive, and preventing some of the problems from developing in the first place.

Things used to be simple. A man knew what he was supposed to do in relationship to a woman. Maybe he didn’t make the grade, but at least he knew the stakes.

Times are tougher now. Successful relationship is no longer a matter of following well-worn traditional formulas. Whose rules do you follow? Your parents’, your peers’, your partner’s, the media, feminism, the mens’ movement, or your own?

These are desperate times for men wanting to succeed in relationship, and this is the manual to help you find your way through the maze.

Acclaim

“Steve Vinay Gunther is a psychotherapist with a mission:to help men develop a better relationship with the woman in their life. He provides a unique approach to the universal challenge men face: how to live happily with a woman. With astonishing insight he gives clear, down-to-earth practical instructions on the most important fundamentals of successful relationship.”

- Zoe Satherly

“Excellent, easy-to-read, useful and theoretically sound. I rarely read self-help books, but Gunther's work is simply outstanding. Practical advice written without new age gloss or ego; a real joy to read and learn from. We have the post-feminist female, perhaps this book will help create the post-patriarchal male.”

- Professor Sohail Inayatullah

Sample Chapters you can check out

Here are some chapters which you can check out...and a quiz from the end of the book.

Aural Sex

The Quick Quiz

Chapter headings

CRY ME A RIVER
THE KEYS
ORAL SEX: EXPRESSING YOURSELF
WOMEN’S WISDOM
AURAL SEX: THE ART OF LISTENING
A COMMON LANGUAGE
THE BOTTOM LINE: WHO ARE YOU
THE BLESSING OF CRITICISM
LIBERATING QUESTIONS
THE TRAP
APPRECIATION
TESTS
MAGIC WORDS
EMPOWERMENT
PEAS IN A POD
THE BITCH
EXPECTATIONS
FAMILY OF ORIGIN
DEAD BUT NOT FORGOTTEN
RESISTANCE (TRYING IS LYING)
THINKING IN CIRCLES
REALLY LOSING IT
BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS
MIND READING
DOMESTICS
WORK
FUN
MONEY
SPIRITUALITY
GIVE AND TAKE
MISSING
ROMANCE
CHIVALRY
SEX : YOUR HEAD YOUR EAR AND YOUR MOUTH!
SEX: TEN TIPS
THE FEMALE BODY
PAIRS AND TRIANGLES
FIDELITY
JEALOUSY
ETHICS
STRAIGHT FROM THE HIP
REAL FRIENDS
TOO MUCH SUBSTANCE
COMMITMENT
NEARING THE END
FEMINISM
FIGHTING
ABUSE
AROUND AND AROUND
RESPONSIBILITY
QUICK QUIZ

About writing the book

Why did I write this book? It started as a consequence of a conversation with the partner of a friend; she outlined the reasons why she was just about to leave him. I felt quite disturbed afterwards, thinking about how yet another of my male friends was about to lose a fantastic dynamic beautiful woman because he just wasn't listening. I thought about my own mistakes and the high cost of them in my relationship. What is it about us men I wondered.

I woke up the next morning and the book was there, in my head. I sat down and wrote for 10 hours non stop, and the core of the manuscript was born. I spent 5 years working it, adding to it, getting feedback, and this seems to be a never ending process. I have enjoyed each stage, from writing to publishing, though of course finding the time is always the most difficult part.

Publishers

The book is published in Spanish by a Mexican publisher.

The book is published in Australia by Finch, and available from bookstores. Or you can order it direct from us below. Or you can download it as an eBook from itunes, Amazon etc.

Feedback

I have been getting excellent responses from readers. I explain in the introduction; if one man reads and applies one piece of advice from the book, and it makes a significant difference, I am happy.

Ordering the book

To order the English edition

Cost: US$39, postage paid.